Your Vulnerability IS Your Weakness
“Don’t mistake my vulnerability for weakness.”
Ok, what is it, then? Or better yet, …or what? Do I become the villain in your latest victim story?
Vulnerability is a trick of vernacular played on the Western public. It literally means "open to attack."
Throughout history, words in the English language have been misused commonly so that they begin to mean their opposite. Most frequently words used to describe deplorable behavior are turned to mean something respectable. I suspect people in positions of power have most often influenced these changes to improve their own declining reputations.
But lately, changing words like "vulnerability" to mean something positive in the general public is a direct attack on the masses through literally breaking down our defenses: good, well-warranted defenses.
You don't want a vulnerability in your diet or your health. You don't want one in your home security. You don't want one in the engine of your car. You don't want them in your mind or heart.
You do want personal boundaries. You do want security. You do want strength.
Vulnerability *is* weakness. It isn't a misinterpretation to say that.
If you want strength and the openness to receive good, you have personal boundaries and you have receptivity. Use the proper word and free yourself of exploitable sentimentality about the areas in your life that need more work. When you choose personal boundaries and receptivity, you have the keys and none of this is arbitrary.
What people should be trying to convey with all of this “vulnerability” talk is that you need to be conscious of when you are locking the door and to whom. There is no part in knowing these which actually equates to vulnerability.
But by glorifying vulnerability, the social dilettantes say "open the door to everyone more and do so unconsciously because it is a net win." But it isn't.
And when you get beaten and robbed, you can feel like a victim and glorify your victimhood. You can blame the other person and learn nothing of self-defense or self-preservation to grow from your experience. Thus it can happen over and over again. We make other people responsible for our personal weaknesses and poor choices. "This other person didn't respect, couldn’t value my vulnerability."
Of course not! Vulnerability is exploitable, and that is all. It is also avoidable if you love and respect yourself. The best thing about recognizing vulnerability in any area of your life is the ability to sure it up. Never has there been a good reason to punch more holes in your integrity. You realize they are at odds: integrity and vulnerability?
Don't let anyone tell you that your personal responsibility of self-preservation, self-defense and self-love should be arbitrarily suspended.
There are enemies in this world. There are agents and agencies paying out billions and trillions of dollars just to get you to compliantly accept their exploitation of you. there are individuals who would do you direct harm. Granted, they are not in the majority, at least not for me. But I also don't go around advertizing and boasting of my vulnerability.
That is something to truly consider.
I don't care what Brene Brown says.
Fuck Brene Brown.