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I am currently on a 7 day FB ban for an arbitrary “hate speech” double-standard violation. What I said sounded kind of sexist out of context. I will be the first to admit it. However, it’s clear from what I said that there is missing context. Ready?

“Women want what other women have. They are largely stupid and self defeating in that way.”

This comment begs the question “In what way?”

I left this in a comment response on a friend’s live video who was describing how her husband was getting hit on by women ONLY AFTER he started wearing a wedding ring. I feel that shame, guilt and condemnation for would-be adulterers should be permitted if not encouraged. I get labeled a perjorative “conspiracy theorist,” “agent of misinformation,” “extremist,” “antivaxxer,” “antiscience,” and lately even “racist,” and “sexist” (which seem to be unrelated to the topic) all day long on these platforms for merely questioning whether forcing any medication on people without exceptions seems tyrannical. It seems absurd that we can’t criticize cheaters.

I did make a somewhat sexually biased generalization about women. I know there are men out there who also seem to want married women. Trust me, as soon as I got married, all the men I ever dated who seemed to have a fear of commitment sounded really brave about what could’ve been had I married them. I was told what mistakes they made, etc not being better to me. “Shoulda, woulda, coulda… Now, politely, fuck off.” The difference is that those men while still self-defeating and stupid, don’t want me suddenly because I’m taken. They don’t really want me at all. They just get to blame fate now for their perpetual bachelorhood, rather than their poor choices and lack of diligence. These kind of men will even get involved with a married woman. It’s not because they want her to get divorced and leave her husband for a fairytale life together-forever. That’s the LAST thing they want. Her being married is just another excuse to never have to commit.

Women on the other hand…

Here’s an example of a common occurrence that I noticed when I was single. It could have been with my sister, cousins, women friends I hung out with or even women I overheard in an amusement park, gym or shopping mall. These are not just the level of women I personally attract as friends.

“Did you see that hot guy that just walked by?”

Me, looking around oblivious, stunned and bewildered.

“That one in the bright green shirt.”

Me, still wondering.

“He’s right there next to you!”

Wait! Do you mean guy holding hands with his female companion who is likely MARRIED?!? THAT guy? Why would I even bother to notice him?

Yes, ladies, it’s true. Some of you look at the taken guys and want them more because another woman has them, and unlike the men who seem to do this, you actually want to make them yours.

I had some guy friends exploit this phenomenon when I was in college.

When I was single, my two best friends were well aware of this propensity among women to want the guy with the hottest girl in the room. Steven and Curtis used me (the once hot girl) as bait to attract women all the time- and it WORKED! These two guys were the most homely, skinny computer geeks you ever met in your life. In the real world there was no way they were getting laid much less with any super models or clones of Sofia Vergara. That was way out of their league. I liked both of them as friends, but they were not my type. No way I would touch either of them. However, they figured out the hot girl algorithm. They bought nice watches, ties and shoes. They read dark romance novels to figure out what clichés women generally wanted to hear. They dressed in nice suits with long trench coats to mimic characters from “Less Than Zero” (sorry about the way, way back machine reference, this was a bit before “The Matrix”). They died their hair black and kept their look corporate. They offered to buy me very flashy, metallic or sequined dresses that showed off my assets. That is if I didn’t have anything to wear that wasn’t laying on my bedroom floor from my lack of attention to laundry. They took me to all the best bars and nightclubs in Los Angeles with them. I would eat all night for free and never had to pay a cover charge which was great on my Sam Goodie salary. (That’s another GenX reference.) I wasn’t much of a drinker, so I was available as designated driver if needed. My friends were in their full, brooding character mode so they weren’t really drinking much either. It was like cosplay before it really took off, but with real women making very poor decisions.

Bottom line is that women swarmed my two friends not knowing which one of them was mine so they could steal him from me. The best part for me was that no guys would hit on me. What does that tell you? I just got to hang out in nice places with my protective, dork patrol friends talking about Anne Rice novels or whatever we were into at the time. It was a chill night with nice music, amazing food and good ambience while they got sexy ladies’ numbers or one might take off occasionally to get laid in the john or whatever. I never asked. Good for you, buddy.

That story might confirm that I don’t think much of women, but trust me. I just don’t think much of these kinds of women. If that happens to be most women act that way, then y’all need counseling. Not my problem. I didn’t make it the way it be.

So, last week, FB slapped me with a “hate speech” violation further validating the new lOgIkS from the likes of Justin Trudeau that people who oppose vaccine passports are racists and misogynists. Look, they caught me so it must be true. It’s a double standard.

How many casual conversations happen on FB wherein women degrade men? That’s another thing. Women commonly do this. I see it. Don’t lie. You’ve seen it. I’ve heard these sweeping negative generalizations about men in casual conversations with women throughout my life. Everything about men in general is in the pejorative. As a woman, especially, I think one hearing me make those generalizations (I don’t make them, but if I did) about men might sound somewhat pessimistic, but the tendency is to view women who speak this way of men as common, normal and therefor acceptable. But even as a woman, I couldn’t get the benefit of the doubt from the FB community standards bots when generalizing about other women who in the context were hitting on my friend’s husband BECAUSE he was married. Isn’t that a bitch?

What’s subscription got to do with it?

As I have subscribed to several Substacks in the post covid world, I’d say the major benefit of subscription for me has been that it keeps me connected to alternative points of view and keeps me in contact regardless of the tech giants’ desire to impose virtue thought standards as a prerequisite to social contact. I am a big girl. I don’t need nanny state tech to tell me who is a racist or a sexist and cut me off from people based on the perceptions of a fucking bot. From my case, it’s clear their bungling bots couldn’t detect nuance and got it all wrong. Their bot also reviewed it once and still got it wrong. They don’t care. The world is still doing everything it can to force us all into our homes right now with mask mandates, flu fear and vaccine passports. If people allow this to continue, our only social contact will be via our computers. I think we need to start rewarding those platforms who are not handing out merit badges for compliance to arbitrary “virtue think” standards.

Here’s one solution. Subscribe to my Substack. Create a Substack of your own and send me a link. I’ll subscribe to yours. You can always comment below where we can expand on our ideas for creating a better world, or we can just crack jokes and shoot the shit. Whatever. The bottom line is there are no PC police here as of yet, and I am enjoying the bloggisphere.

Come on in. The water’s warm.