I’ve probably said this before, but here we go again, for the slow people in the back.
I am still hearing people say ridiculous things. You’ve heard it, too. Maybe you’ve even said it. I know I used to say it, and I cringe to think of myself once perpetuating and parroting this idiotic rhetoric. There are people who seem to think we could just all get along. Worse, they presume the reason we can’t all get along is because of some interlopers that are dividing us. You’ve heard it. Maybe you’ve said it like I have. Maybe, this will be painful for you, if you are still the one saying it.
“We are being intentionally divided and you, naive people are falling for it! If we just ignored the media and the government, we could all get along peacefully.”
When I hear these things, I hear retardation. And yes, I used to be this retarded. Now, hopefully, I’m a little less retarded. Hindsight being 20/20. People who don’t get along are not necessarily victims of division. What makes you victims (and you are, well, we are all because of this:) is your sense that people with diametrically opposed values SHOULD be able to work things out and stay together.
That is EXACTLY like saying a couple with irreconcilable differences could just stay peacefully, harmoniously and happily together with their hands in each other’s pockets if they just avoided mediation and attorneys and the courts.
Are you all that childish, naive and simplistic to believe it was the court’s and the attorney’s faults that couples couldn’t find a way to live with each other?
NO, YOU MORONS!!!
It’s OK to find yourself not as a child who can just play with anybody. It’s OK to acknowledge you have established a set of values not shared by others. It’s ok to discern that people with certain values deserve less of your time and attention. It’s ok when you hit a fork in the road to take another path and to let those we once clung to go their way and choose a divergent path. Let the chips fall where they may. It’s ok. If you let go and stay true to your values, it will all be ok.
There are legitimate reasons most people shouldn’t be sharing a country, and these vulture courts and attorney arbitrators (many of whom used to practice family law) have learned to pick at the bones of your vulnerability over your irreconcilable differences and your naivety about your failure to make it work. Then, they exploit it by selling you the hope they can keep you together if you keep paying them money. OR they sell you the belief that somehow you’ll come out ahead at them others’ expense. Finally, they tell you they can make people who make each other miserable live together (“we’ll shut them up for you”, “we’ll get them to give you whatever you want”, “you’ll show them” or worse, this fairy tale “they’ll be forced to pay our lofty fees in the end”) if you keep electing these vultures to prey on the remains of your failed relationship.
We should all separate as quickly, humanely and amicably as possible. The sooner we divide permanently, the sooner we dump these cows that keep us fighting to stay together in disharmony, the sooner we release the hope we can take away the needs or desires of the others in the process of making people with irreconcilable differences all live together, THE SOONER we ALL stop being exploited and stolen from.
But you are a plain fool if you think the division is superficial or the division is the fault of people who intervened and whom you hired to resolve your lack of ability to get along with people that are impossible, even toxic to you -after the fact.
If that’s still your story, you’re dumb, blind and stupid.
I know I was. Don’t be like me.
Division would be amazing if we could just acknowledge that our values are too opposed to find a way to share a sandwich much less a country.
Fuck, Al Green. Let’s Definitely NOT Stay Together.
Let's go nuclear :)