Dis-Integration of Man

I see so much dis-integration among humans today, whether it be with their emotions or sexuality or intellect. It is becoming more and more common to see kids and adults without brain balance (sufferers of ADD, ADHD, sensory issues and ASDs), people declaring gender dysmorphia or transgender (the idea that a human can encompass mutual exclusivity of either masculine or feminine energies) or (or rather AND) a variety of emotionally imbalanced people with bi-polar, borderline or even multiple personality disorders and schizophrenia. It cannot all be "boiled down to more or better diagnosis" as it seems pharmacology and those who prefer everyone accept the dis-integration of humanity as a constant suggest.

It is absolutely verifiable that the prevalence of cases is far beyond the scope of diagnosis in many of these dis-integrations. Take Autism Spectrum Disorders, as an example. While the numbers are skyrocketing and people keep claiming “It’s just better diagnosis,” I compel one to ask, where are the masses, the profoundly low-functioning autistic adults? The number of nonverbal autistic children per capita compared to the number of nonverbal autistic adults is an easy give away that diagnosis is not the simple explanation to the exponentially surging case numbers being diagnosed with autism spectrum disorders. It’s just as possible but maybe not as obviously so that the rest of these diagnoses could also be multiplying beyond the scope of just better diagnosis- if anyone was looking. The medical industrial complex would invest significant resources to keep those investigations from occurring. The medical industrial complex has a pill or a surgery for every dis-integration created and some extras for those who live around these people and take on their struggles. How medicated are the parents of kids with an ASD, for example? And I do personally believe the medical industrial complex contributes to creating dis-integration. Hegelian Dialectic portends the scenario of problem>reaction>solution. You create the problem, narrate the reaction in the direction of your solution and BAM, you have created a market.

I hate to say it (because people don't want to even consider it conversationally in our world of PC safe spaces), but I believe, in part, it's what we cling to that keeps us experiencing half of ourselves. I have found for myself and witnessed with others this blind spot phenomena, where the thing we believe is helping us the most in keeping our shit together is actually the thing tearing us apart. Be it unhealthy relationships to food, hobbies or social activities, medications (prescription, vitamin, mineral, herbal or illegal), people we believe we are most dependent on who we believe are our only constants, or just the ideas about what gives us meaning, these sacred cows are holding us back from the experience of wholeness. Many facing these challenges of dis-integration are expressing how they can't live with themselves. Who is the “I” who cannot live with the “self?” Others expressly believe that their specific dis-integration (put those ideas together without the dash) label is what makes them who they are. These are the beliefs that need to be disintegrated to bring the emotions and the intellects and the sexuality of wholeness of the individual back together.

Having an experience can be part of who you are and it can make you a better person and teacher: only in so much as it can be (if it is a quest for disintegration or annihilation) overcome. Get meaning from overcoming disintegration, not from existing with it.

So says the sage, "Yea, though, I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I shall not set up camp there."

What are the sacred cows or constants you cling to?

What do you believe you can't live without?

How much of living with those things or people or ideas you can’t live without have you sacrificed your wholeness and integrity to hold on to?

Once one starts to examine the true give and take of the sacred cow, it becomes less sacred. Only then, may the self or the whole of the individual be able to retain more integrity.

This takes us back to our boundaries. If you put your fully integrated wholeness inside your boundary, what relationship changes would it require of you to keep it there?

You may not have to kick people out of your life so much as you may have to ask them to respect you enough to stop “treating” you like a mental patient. Free will requires giving people the chance to step up and be what you truly need, not just what you merely depend on for the subsistence you’ve been surviving or referring to as your survival. You don’t have to walk away or block yourself off from relationships. Why tire your already depleted self out with all the foot work? You just have to ask people to come to you and with you where you want to be, and allow them to decide which direction they want to go.